Do you have a kiddo who seems to make a career out of arguing, begging, or otherwise trying to wear you down? Parents tell me all the time how exhausting and frustrating this is—and I get it.

It’s not just annoying; it’s one of the ways your child nudges you into a stress cycle. You probably know the feeling: your heart starts to race, your muscles tense up, and your emotions build to the point where you just want it all to stop. And sometimes, the easiest way to make it stop feels like giving in.

But what if there was another way?

Here’s the deal: when your body goes into stress mode, it’s flooded with hormones that prepare you to act. That’s useful in emergencies, but in parenting, it can leave you feeling reactive, drained, and stuck in a cycle of chronic stress.

The good news? You don’t have to stay stuck.

You can complete the stress cycle.

That doesn’t mean eliminating the stressor (your persistent, determined kiddo) or solving every problem on the spot. It means giving your body and mind a moment to process the stress and reset.

When you take time to reset, you’re not just doing it for yourself. You’re doing it so you can show up for your kids in a calmer, more centered way.

In this week’s podcast I unpack the stress cycle and how to break free.

Next time you’re in the thick of a high-stress parenting moment, remember this: stepping away to take care of your stress isn’t selfish—it’s essential. It’s a small but powerful way to take care of yourself and your family.

You’ve got this. And if you need someone in your corner, I’m here.

Drop me a line at wendyleejohnsoncoaching@gmail.com

Episode Description
Today, we're exploring co-regulation—a powerful parenting tool that’s especially important for adoptive families. Co-regulation can make a world of difference, helping our children feel safe, grounded, and connected. Whether you’re new to this concept or looking for more practical ways to apply it, this episode will guide you through what co-regulation is, why it matters, and how you can start practicing it with your kids to strengthen your family bond.

Episode Breakdown

1. Introduction
I start with a story from my own experience—an “aha” moment that made me realize the importance of staying regulated as a parent. It was a moment that got a bit, let’s say, intense, but it became a turning point for me in prioritizing co-regulation. This story sets the stage for the rest of the episode.

2. What is Co-Regulation?
We break down what co-regulation really means and how it can provide our children with a sense of safety and emotional security, especially when they come from difficult or disrupted pasts.

3. The Science Behind Co-Regulation
A little brain science! We dive into why our calm presence can have such a powerful effect on our children, helping them feel secure and connected.

4. The Challenge of Staying Regulated
Kids, especially those who’ve experienced trauma, struggle to stay regulated. Here, we discuss why it’s so important for us to stay calm first, so they can feel our steady energy and co-regulate with us.

5. Four Key Lessons from Parenting Teens
Over the years, I’ve learned four big lessons that help me show up for my teens and stay connected with them:
- It’s Not About Me
- They Don’t Need Me to Fix Things
- Avoiding Minimizing Their Experience
- They’re Learning Self-Regulation

6. Practical Strategies for Co-Regulation
From sharing Spotify playlists to helping with chores, we cover everyday strategies for creating safe, connected moments with teens that allow them to co-regulate with us naturally.

7. Common Challenges in Co-Regulation
It’s not always easy, and that’s okay! We discuss common roadblocks and how to extend grace to ourselves as we do our best, even when things get tough.

8. Conclusion
A reminder that every small effort matters and that our work as adoptive parents to create a safe and supportive space truly makes a difference.

If today’s episode resonates with you, I’d love to offer a bit more support. I’m currently offering a free consult call where we can talk about what’s happening in your family and find ways to strengthen your parenting approach. Whether you’re facing specific challenges or just looking for extra guidance, let’s connect. Here's the link to schedule your free consult —just click and pick a time that works best for you!

https://calendly.com/wendyleejohnson/free-consult

Thank you for joining me today! Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with other adoptive parents who might find it helpful. We’re all in this together.

We all want our kids to thrive, but what does that really mean?

Often in our culture, thriving is associated with excelling at sports, maintaining a high GPA, or maintaining friendships. But here’s the kicker: thriving is so much more than just those quantifiable achievements. In fact, I believe thriving is more of a direction than a destination.

Many of our adopted kids come from challenging backgrounds. Maybe no one in their birth family graduated high school, or their birthparents struggle with issues like addiction or incarceration and these same issues keep showing up in our kiddo’s journeys. All of these challenges can cast a long shadow over what we perceive as thriving.

I this episode we cover what thriving really is and how this can change your relationship with your child.

I coach adoptive parents. If you would like some support, schedule a free consultation HERE