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Episode Description: In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we’re exploring the deep-seated belief that so many people carry—“Why can’t I ever be good enough?” that was shared by a listener. This thought often leads to cycles of rumination, especially for those who have experienced narcissistic or emotional abuse. If you’ve found yourself constantly replaying moments, questioning your worth, or feeling like you’re never quite “enough,” this episode is for you.

Through a powerful personal story, I share the moment when I was faced with this belief in my own life. During my marriage, I constantly found myself striving to be “good enough” for my ex, even when it felt like nothing would ever satisfy him. In this episode, I recount a particularly emotional experience that is proof that when you ruminate on "not good enough" you may turn to unbecoming or harmful behaviors just to feel worthy.

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This episode contains an emotionally charged story involving the death of an animal. I know this may be upsetting to some listeners, so please take care as you listen. My goal is to share this story as a way to shed light on the deeper struggles behind rumination, but I want you to feel prepared for this content in case it’s a sensitive topic for you.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• How feelings of “not being good enough” create a loop of rumination.
• How that rumination can lead to unwanted and harmful behaviors.
• Why this belief keeps us tied to past events and emotional pain.
• How to start recognizing and questioning the subconscious beliefs that fuel rumination.
• A reflection exercise to help you identify the core beliefs behind your own recurring thoughts.

Plus: Join me on December 11 at 7 PM EST for a special Break Free from Rumination training session, where I’ll teach you specific tools to stop rumination and uncover the beliefs keeping you stuck. After the training, you can also join an exclusive $10 discovery upgrade session to get personalized help uncovering your own unique patterns.
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In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we explore how rumination keeps us tied to painful memories and emotions, especially after experiences of narcissistic abuse and emotional abuse. If you’ve ever felt that letting go of certain thoughts would mean losing a part of yourself, you’re not alone. Many people struggle to separate from repetitive, self-defeating thoughts, fearing they may be part of their identity.

Today, we’re breaking down why your thoughts don’t define you and how you can break free from the ruminations that keep you stuck. With insights into how the brain’s pathways reinforce these patterns and why past traumas can make rumination automatic, this episode will help you understand that you are far more than your thoughts. Tune in to learn actionable steps to reclaim your true identity beyond rumination and start your journey to healing.

Plus, I share a powerful example from a listener who experienced this struggle firsthand and offer a practical exercise to help you shift your mindset today.

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In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we’re uncovering the hidden beliefs that keep you tethered to emotional pain, especially after challenging experiences like narcissistic or emotional abuse. If you’ve found yourself stuck in a cycle of rumination, this episode will help you discover how deeply embedded subconscious beliefs—like feeling unworthy of love or fearing rejection—are silently holding you back.

We’ll dive into how these beliefs operate below the surface, shaping your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors without you even realizing it. Plus, I’ve created a quick quiz to help you identify the specific beliefs driving your emotional pain. You can take the quiz on my website to reveal what’s keeping you stuck. For everyone who submits their answers, I’m offering a free mini-guide with actionable steps to start shifting these beliefs immediately.

You can join the Free Online Training for December 11th at 7PM EST here: https://www.radiatenrise.com/joinus-fb43e29f-15c5-4a77-bd73-fff551b0e0d8. And if you want to go even deeper, I’m offering a $10 upgrade to a personalized group session where we’ll explore your quiz results together and work on dismantling those beliefs that keep you tethered to the past. Join me in this episode and take the first step to uncover what’s truly holding you back—healing is possible, and it starts here.

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"Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About It"

In this episode of the Be A Better You Podcast, we explore why so many people struggle to stop thinking about their ex, especially after experiencing narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, or trauma bonds. If you're tired of the endless mental loops and intrusive thoughts, this episode will help you understand the science behind why your brain keeps you stuck. We'll dive into the role of unresolved emotions, subconscious attachments, and the brain's reward system, which can make even painful memories feel familiar—and harder to let go.

You'll learn how neural pathways are formed and why it's not just the memories themselves, but the emotional charge behind them, that keeps you ruminating. I’ll also explain how to rewire these pathways and break free from the toxic patterns that keep you tethered to the past.

As part of this episode, I'm asking for you to be highlighted in my next episode to identify the most common thoughts you have about your ex. Plus, I’m excited to announce my upcoming free Zoom event on December 11, How to Stop Thinking of Your Ex in Under 90 Days, where you will be learning about the powerful techniques to stop rumination for good. Don’t miss out—tune in now and start your journey to mental freedom!

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In this episode of The Better You Podcast, we dive deep into a sneaky form of rumination that you might not even realize you’re trapped in—fantasy ruminations. These are the vivid, imaginative stories your mind creates, where your ex is living their best life without you, down to the tiniest details like the wine they drink or the clothes they wear. This is a very common behavior for survivors of domestic and narcissistic abuse. Even though these scenarios are entirely fictional, they still hold incredible power over your emotions and keep you stuck. But why does your mind create these stories, and how can you finally break free? Tune in to explore how these "mental movies" may be holding you back from true healing.

You’ll discover the key difference between repetitive thoughts and creative ruminations, and why your brain gets caught up in these loops. I’ll share a powerful metaphor to help you see these fantasies for what they are and, more importantly, give you practical steps to stop the cycle. And if you’re ready to go deeper, I’ll also tell you about an amazing opportunity to join my Radiate and Rise community and unlock an exclusive offer for my I'm Worthy Immersion Program, designed to build the self-worth that’s essential for ending these rumination patterns once and for all.

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If you’ve experienced emotional abuse, divorce, or narcissistic abuse, it can feel like your mind is constantly trapped in an exhausting cycle of rumination. Abuse survivors often find themselves replaying painful memories of their ex-partner, their toxic behaviors, or the trauma of the relationship. This mental loop doesn’t just waste time—it keeps you stuck in the past and prevents you from moving forward with your life. Whether you’re dealing with a high-conflict divorce or recovering from narcissistic abuse, these recurring thoughts can feel impossible to shake. But breaking free from rumination is possible, and it starts with addressing the root cause of your emotional pain.

In this episode, I share the fastest way to stop ruminating in under 3 months and why many survivors of emotional and narcissistic abuse find themselves mentally stuck after their relationship ends. We explore how to reclaim your mental energy and regain control over your thoughts, even if you’re still dealing with a difficult ex or legal battles post-divorce. By understanding how rumination works and how to tackle it at its source, you can create a future that’s no longer overshadowed by your past.

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If you’ve ever been abused, dealing with conflict can feel super scary! In this episode, we’re going to talk about how abuse survivors can handle conflict better. We’ll look at how the mind tries to protect us after trauma and how these habits might affect how we react to conflict. By understanding these patterns, we can find ways to feel stronger, more confident, and in control. We’ll share tips and ideas to help survivors take back their power and see conflict as a chance to grow and change. This episode is all about learning to face conflict with courage and rewrite your story with strength!

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In this podcast episode I am explaining he insidious nature of narcissistic abuse, specifically focusing on the manipulative tactic of withholding. Exploring the psychology behind withholding, we illuminate the lasting impact on survivors' self-esteem, including diminished self-worth, heightened anxiety, and struggles with trust. By raising awareness and breaking the cycle if narcissistic abuse, we aim to provide valuable insights and resources for listeners navigating the complexities of this abuse tactic so you can recovery and reclaim your life!

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