Understanding the full impact of cheating on those who are betrayed. What a relief!

This book really seemed to cover all the points
Made by The Chump Lady in Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life, which saved my life. I almost felt it covered the same points and analysis offered by Tracey Shorn. However, I felt so grateful for a perspective from the victim’s point of view. I haven’t felt that anyone who hasn’t been completely deceived, betrayed, gaslighted and put at risk by the cheater. All of the thousands of secret decisions they made when they fantasised, planned and executed moves to keep their loyal spouse in the dark so they could cheat and not feel the consequences. Ughhh. My life was robbed from me at 60 by my husband of 37 yrs. He unilaterally made the decision to end the marriage, but kept me in the dark for over a year. The single life he claimed he wanted was in fact to move in with his ‘cycling friend’ who he had known for 10 yrs. I am the one living as a single person at 60, with no answers because he tells me ‘it’s none of my business, she’s none of my business and let’s keep her out of this!’ My financial security is ruined, my self esteem shredded and people want me to take it on the chin. Go to hell! The life I worked damn hard for and built year by year just devastated by deceit. Wayne and Tamara set out the data; why forgiving a cheater does not work out statistically. I am clear now and wish that any people toying with cheating would read this. But of course they won’t because they are probably already on the road to entitlement and justification. Their children will pay the highest price!

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