Break free from the traps of modern dating and learn how to take control of your love life in this practical, compassionate guide that will help you find your person and become your most dateable self.

As creators and hosts of the hit dating podcast Dateable, Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu have made breaking down the nuances of the ever-evolving dating world, and empowering the people within it, their purpose and passion. With all the challenges and frustrations that come from modern dating, the question they receive from daters time and again: Am I just not dateable?

From speaking to thousands of daters and world-renowned experts, Julie and Yue have come to realize that everyone is dateable—it’s just the modern dating norms that keep us from falling in love. Contrary to other dating books, How to Be Dateable isn’t a playbook of rules to follow or methods to hack your love life. But it will help you identify your dating strong suits and what’s getting in your way. To help personalize your experience and more closely identify which pieces of advice work best for you, Julie and Yue have developed a dating archetype quiz that sorts you into different dating types: Achiever, Dreamer, Energizer, Maverick, and Thinker.

With their dating archetype in mind, in Part 1 of How to Be Dateable you will first learn to identify common dating traps that keep modern daters in a perpetual cycle of singledom: The Expectation of Love On Demand, The Settling Paradox, The Validation Trap, and Relationship Chicken. After learning to recognize and avoid these traps, in Part 2, you start learning how to fall in love by Letting Go, Gaining Clarity, Showing Up, Investing Appropriately, and Persevering through it All. Within the book, there are case studies, personal anecdotes, exercises, and self-assuring mantras designed to help daters understand their core strengths and date on your terms.

Written with the knowledge of experts and the warmth of a wise best friend, How to Be Dateable will help you create a dating life filled with joy, fulfillment, extraordinary connections, and love.