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In Control
- Dangerous Relationships and How They End in Murder
- Narrated by: Gabrielle Glaister
- Length: 8 hrs and 4 mins
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Bloomsbury presents In Control by Jane Monckton-Smith, read by Gabrielle Glaister.
A woman is killed by her partner or ex-partner every four days in the UK.
Domestic homicide is a pandemic so pervasive that the soaring figures cause weary resignation rather than alarm. For 30 years, Professor Jane Monckton-Smith has been fighting to change this. A former police officer and internationally renowned professor of public protection, she lectures on sexualised and fatal violence; works with families bereaved through homicide; and trains police and other professionals on how to best handle cases involving coercive control, domestic abuse and stalking.
Killers do not snap and lose control.
Her groundbreaking research led to the creation of the eight-stage homicide timeline, laying out identifiable stages in which coercive relationships can escalate to murder and revolutionising our understanding of them.
There are signs, if you know how to see them.
In this book, Monckton-Smith shares a glimpse into a world of toxic masculinity and coercive control, one in which the tools are shame and fear, helped along by a media and justice system who are far from shedding sexist notions of men and women's roles in society.
Drawing on disciplines including psychology, sociology and law, she talks to victims, their families and killers, putting together pieces to the puzzle of how these relationships can end in murder and bringing to light the reasons why - for so many of us - there is no such thing as the safety of one's own home.
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- Samantha O'Sullivan
- 13-04-21
Fascinating
A great way to learn about such a serious topic and to be on the look out for such behaviour
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- paula
- 02-04-22
insightful. A book everyone should read
brilliant book. Very well written and very easy to follow as it presented in 8 steps. A book everyone should read
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- AhSatan
- 18-11-22
An eye opener
Recommended to me by a dear friend who works with victims of DV on a daily basis. Jane answers some questions I’ve been asking for years and has certainly made me stop and think about some of the things I’ve seen and experienced first hand. I highly recommend this book and I’ve got no doubt I’ll come back to it again and again.
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- anji
- 08-11-22
Thought provoking listen
This book helped to reinforce my knowledge and experience working in health and social care. The ripple effect of domestic abuse permeates through society and needs to be addressed at the root. I have always felt a personal need to focus on prevention and encourage healthy relationships at the earliest opportunity in every setting (home, school, college, university etc..). Let’s keep having difficult conversations until the conversation is no longer difficult. My personal feeling is that saving lives is everybody’s business. My plan is to listen to the book again and then get myself involved in some voluntary capacity to help make a difference. Thank you Jane Monckton-Smith for writing this book.
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- Lise
- 24-03-21
Important, clear...and sad
This non-fiction works exceptionally well for audio. It moves through the eight-stage model of coersive control in a way that is easy to follow and understand. There are lots examples from the author's extensive work and network, so it is in no way dry or overly theoretical. After listening I am filled with anger and empathy, but also with insight and clarity.
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- AK Schepers
- 13-03-21
Must read! Don’t delay!
Everyone should read this book. It should be taught in schools before the partner search starts. It’s a game changer and potential life saver.
Jane Monckton-Smith shines a bright light not only on the patterns of coercive control and predictable stages of partner homicide and femicide, but also on how society, culture, systems, institutions and language perpetuate these. Bravely and accurately she challenges myths and questioned the status quo of love and relationships.
By describing her research and her techniques of observing, listening, noticing and analysing in her interviews with convicted murderers who killers their partners, she also provides a model for how to protect oneself and spot the signs of coercive control at the eight stages of her timeline model.
I cannot recommend strongly enough!
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- Mrs Tina Weigel Burnett
- 23-01-22
this book could save your life
very informative and eye-opening,
sends a shiver through you when you realise some of the behavioural patterns sound familiar
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- Dave one
- 17-10-22
eye opening
A really important book with some shocking facts. A must read for all of us. Hopefully attitudes are slowly changing for both male and female victims.
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- Andy Bartlett
- 18-06-21
A compelling examination of Domestic Abuse
This ought to be mandatory reading for every practitioner in the criminal justice system. Professor Jane Monkton Smith isnt simply an academic it's very clear that she has a deep understanding of the system and its flaws. I have given a copy of this book to my daughter to read.
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- Akira Rose
- 08-08-21
Heartbreaking but educational
Really recommend this book for education or pleasure purposes. I learnt so much more about DA even though some of it I already knew and experienced my self. This book should be made an essential read to courses such as social work or law degree even for police officers.
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