Just Give Up on projecting fantasies about yourself and pretending to live up to them.

Reject setting goals and making judgments about how good you are and instead just do what you want.

The only ones even taking notice are those less successful than you, are they really who you are looking to impress? Daring to fail is the new winning - doing what you want without fear of how you think people will judge you - even if that means getting a stripper in Brazil pregnant.

Happiness can only come from acceptance.

Stop resisting.

Just Give Up and be a winner!

About the Author

Growing up, despite attending prestigious private schools and graduating with dual Master's degrees, Vandell could not hold down any job past the notice period. Having reached middle-age with absolutely nothing to show for it, everything he has ever attempted has been a flop. Yet, the internationally-failed author and musician describes his life as one long and constant climax. This inspired him to become a motivational speaker to teach the philosophies from his failed self-help book about achieving career success.

Vandell quickly discovered that sharing his countless mega-flops and fiascoes was what motivated participants the most. The unintended result was people reevaluating their relationship with failure and achieving more by no longer being held back from giving their best, doing what they want. Not focusing on how you think people see you frees you to do what you like and find out who you are.