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Polysecure

By: Jessica Fern
Narrated by: Jessica Fern, Eve Rickert, Nora Samaran
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Summary

Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you’re striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner?  

Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships.  

Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide. It provides nonmonogamous people with a new set of tools to navigate the complexities of multiple loving relationships and offers radical new concepts that are sure to influence the conversation about attachment theory. 

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2020 Jessica Fern (P)2020 Thornapple Press

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Genuine and lovely

Absolutely loved the book and the genuine way author was reading it chapter by chapter. Best polyamoury book I have come across so far.

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I'm glad I came across this wisdom

I had a stereotypical view of polyamory. I became more interested as I heard some of my closest friends and others exploring it. The book had helped me make sense of my attachment tenancies and past relationship trauma. Ultimately I do feel more secure within myself. It's exciting to think there are options outside the traditional monogamous relationship models which can offer security, attachment and love. It's great to have some practical advice on how to approach this.

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A must for anyone on a poly journey!

Very informative and accessible, full of practical advice backed up by a solid knowledge and experience of the author

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Decent

Mostly useful for the intro to attachment theory (which you can probably find somewhere else, and probably better). The rest of the book I read as saying "be a decent person." Would recommend to most, for that reason.

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Interesting topic, dry format

The ideas in this book are genuinely fascinating and personally affecting, but I'm afraid I found the presentation dry. It reminded me of the psychology textbooks I read at university more than the pop-psychology I read afterward. I came to this book after having read Ester Perrel's Mating in Captivity, which is full of anecdotes and examples from people's real lives. in comparison, this book is more academic, more theoretical and less juicy.

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Incredibly helpful book!

This book has truly helped me understand relationships. Highly recommend to all, no matter your relationship structure.

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brilliant resource

Easy to follow, balanced perspectives, great guidance for those at any stages of enquiry or action around consensual non monogamy. Thanks Jessica.

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Best literature on CNM

I have tried to consume all of the CNM literature available and this is by far the best, more relevant, and well delivered text there that is currently out there. Cannot recommend more highly- it really deals with the core issues in a clear and accessible way.

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wonderful book on relationships

I loved it , great information for all relationships types and a great insight to being polysecure.

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The recording is pretty bad :/

Frustrating to listen to bc the sound quality is poooooor and everyone sounds annoying tbh

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