Do you know what separates the people who achieve lasting change from those who stay stuck? I’ve worked with hundreds of clients over the years and some clear patterns have definitely emerged.

In this episode, I share the attitudes and behaviors that my most successful clients all embody - insights that can help propel your own progress, whether you're working with a coach privately, or in a group, or going it alone. You'll learn practical strategies for taking ownership, staying motivated, and making real progress towards your goals.

Key Takeaways

1. Only when we are willing to take responsibility for our actions (or inactions) can we make the changes needed to achieve our goals.
2. Regular reflection is critical to internalizing what you are learning and maintaining progress.
3. Rather than passively waiting for solutions, think ahead, ask for what you need, and seek feedback.
4. Commit to viewing failures as opportunities to learn and refine your strategies, rather than as reasons to give up.
5. A coach's role is to provide perspective, accountability, collaborative problem-solving, and support. The motivation and the willingness to do the work must come from you.

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Dr. Bethy Campbell joins Monica to discuss the rewards and potential pitfalls of seeking feedback–in both your professional and personal relationships. Concrete strategies and real-world examples show you how to elicit the most constructive feedback and then how to process and act on it for maximum benefit.

Whether you're looking to improve your communication, enhance your work performance, or strengthen your personal relationships, this conversation is a must-listen for anyone committed to continuous improvement and personal growth.

Key Takeaways

1. If what you are really seeking is validation or reassurance, ask for that instead of asking for feedback.
2. Asking first for specific examples of what is going well can make it easier to benefit from any constructive criticism that follows.
3. Remember that giving feedback (especially to someone you care about) can be just as scary or challenging as being on the receiving end.
4. When receiving feedback, confirming that you heard what the other person said is more important than disputing details or offering explanations.
5. When feedback elicits a big emotional response, simply thank the person for their feedback and ask for time to process before responding.

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In this episode, we’re exploring an aspect of change that can be really tricky: figuring out why making this change is important to you.

It doesn’t sound like it would be that hard. But often it takes a little digging to get at the true heart of our WHY, our compelling reason.

Whether your goals have to do with your health, finances, career, relationships, or anything else, uncovering your compelling reason is crucial. Because it not only increases your chances of success; it also bolsters your overall mental and emotional health.

Key Takeaways

• Knowing what you want to change (or how you’re going to go about it) often isn’t enough to overcome the counter-pressure of the status quo.
• A lack of alignment between our goals and our values causes internal conflict that reduces our resilience to everyday stresses.
• When we pursue changes or goals that are about other people’s expectations or approval, succeeding may not be as satisfying or rewarding as we think
• Wanting to avoid something bad is just as valid a reason as wanting to obtain something good. But it is a different sort of why.

Action Steps

1. Make a list of your reasons for wanting to accomplish a certain goal or create a specific change.
2. For each reason, ask yourself: But why do I want that? What would that bring into my life? Then what?
3. Keep asking that question until your answers feel connected to what you value most.

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