If you don't cry or dislike when someone around you cries, does that make you cold hearted? That's just one of the concerns that our listener wanted to tackle this week, as Helen and Katie explore her past childhood experiences and the lasting impact it's had on her ability to express her emotions.

TW: Physical abuse of a child

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•⁠ ⁠Do you hate saying no?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help…
•⁠ ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?

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Our guest this weeks describes being 'obsessed' with her mother as a child, seeking her adoration and love above all else. She asks for help drawing a line under the past to be able to move forward with her own family, but is this possible if her mother is still the centre of her world?

Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.

•⁠ ⁠Do you hate saying no?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help…
•⁠ ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?

If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. Coming soon - join the waitlist here.

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TW: Suicide

Our guest this week shares how she's been living with her husband's mood swings and silent treatment, but now she's tired of feeling responsible for her family's emotions as well as her own. As the self-described "CEO of the household", she fears that if she steps back, the spinning plates she's been carrying for so long will come crashing down.

Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.

•⁠ ⁠Do you hate saying no?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help…
•⁠ ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?

If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. Coming soon - join the waitlist here.

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Former "good kid" turned trauma therapist, Maggie Nick joins us this week to talk about trauma and the impact her own childhood has on her parenting, including how she was feeling triggered by her children in ways she never expected. Listen as Helen and Katie unpick the relational trauma and shame that needed to be shed before Maggie could silence her inner critic and become the parent she wished she had.

•⁠ ⁠Do you hate saying no?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help…
•⁠ ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?

If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. Coming soon - join the waitlist here.

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Confused by the family dynamics growing up and the blurred lines between parent and child, our guest this week describes a deep need to understand her past before she can fully move forward. She questions whether she was the golden child or the scapegoat within the family that should have protected her all along. Despite going no contact, she shares her fear of an unexpected run-in or being pushed to reconnect by family members minimising the abuse she experienced.

Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.

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When you've spent your life feeling like you're an 'empath' who's an expert at spotting a lie, what do you do when you can no longer trust your instincts? And is it instinct, or is it trauma? That's the dilemma our guest is facing this week, as she asks how she can trust the opinions and actions of others, when she can no longer trust her own.

Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.

We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology.

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We're honoured to have been joined by Matilda live this week, who's asking for help with understanding the dynamic of her relationship, and asks how she can avoid the internal despair she feels at the first sign of conflict. Listen to Helen and Katie share their thoughts on respectful disagreement, unpicking conflict and power dynamics, and the importance of repairing the relationship afterwards.

We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology.

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Our community is front and centre this week, as we answer YOUR questions! From diagnosing a narcissist to how best to support a sibling, we've loved this opportunity to help our lovely Patrons with the questions that are most important to them. Thank you to everyone that asked a question, we wish we could have covered them all!

Fancy asking your own question or even a chance to guest-star on the podcast to read your letter? Look out for more info on your exclusive subscriber-only feed over on our Patreon page.

We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology.

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