On Episode 249, Emily Kircher-Morris chats with Diane Dempster and Elaine Taylor-Klaus from Impact Parents, hosts of the Parenting with Impact podcast. They talk about the challenge of motivating neurodivergent kids, and break down why it’s challenging. The chat includes a framework called PINCH, a way to remember and think about important elements of motivation. You’ll come away with practical strategies for parents to foster a supportive environment that encourages engagement, and ways to move away from fear and stress as motivators.

Takeaways

• Traditional parenting advice often doesn't apply to neurodivergent kids.

• Motivation can be misunderstood; it's not always lack of interest.

• Executive functioning skills play a crucial role in motivation.

• Dopamine is essential for engaging in non-preferred tasks.

• Fear-based parenting creates stress and is not sustainable.

• Intrinsic motivation develops later in life, especially for neurodivergent individuals.

• The PINCH framework helps identify different motivators for kids.

• Interest in a subject can significantly boost motivation.

• Competition can motivate but may also cause anxiety in some children.

• Collaboration and connection with peers can enhance motivation.

• Parents should experiment with different motivational strategies.

• Transparency and vulnerability in parenting can build trust.

Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster co-founded ImpactParents.com in 2011 because traditional parenting advice wasn’t working for their complex kids and they found no training or coaching available designed specifically to support them as parents of complex kids.

Internationally recognized as leading parent educators, they use a coach-approach to help parents reduce the stress of raising children, teens, and young adults with ADHD, Anxiety, Autism, LD and more. They’re the creators of Sanity School® behavior training, and the authors of many books including Parenting ADHD Now: Easy Intervention Strategies to Empower Kids with ADHD and The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, Anxiety and More.

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Impact Parents website

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In this episode of the Neurodiversity Podcast, Emily Kircher-Morris answers questions submitted by members of the Neurodiversity Podcast Advocacy and Support Group on Facebook. The questions cover a range of topics including co-occurrence between ADHD and dyslexia, word disability, gifted kids who are anxious, 504 denial in schools, learning disabilities + high cognition, and many more of your questions. The episode provides insights, strategies, and resources for parents and individuals navigating neurodiversity.

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On episode 247, Emily Kircher-Morris welcomes Dr. Megan Anna Neff to explore the complexities of neurodiversity, and the societal stereotypes that affect their lives. They talk about the challenges of diagnosis, the nuances of misdiagnosis, particularly the overlap between conditions like autism and borderline personality disorder, and the significance of self-awareness and acceptance in the journey of neurodivergent individuals. They discuss the phenomenon of autistic burnout, its implications, the challenges in clinical training regarding autism and ADHD, and inherent inequities that exist because of stereotypes and biases.

Takeaways

• Diagnosis can significantly impact self-understanding and acceptance.

• Misdiagnosis is common, especially among women and genderqueer individuals.

• Understanding one's neurodivergent identity can aid in the healing process.

• The medical community often overlooks non-stereotypical presentations of neurodivergence.

• Self-criticism can stem from societal pressures and internalized shame.

• Community and connection are vital for neurodivergent individuals.

• Many undiagnosed autistic individuals are misdiagnosed with personality disorders.

• There is a significant lack of training for clinicians on autism and ADHD.

• Breaking down stigma around neurodivergence requires ongoing effort and advocacy.

• Autistic burnout includes increased sensory sensitivities and emotional fatigue.

• Living in a typical societal structure can lead to burnout for autistic individuals.

• Challenging myths about autism is essential for societal change.

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Dr. Megan Anna Neff (she/they) is a clinical psychologist, researcher, and advocate based in Portland, Oregon. Her work focuses on neurodiversity, spirituality, and holistic mental health. She has published articles and a book exploring diverse topics such as place-attachment, relational psychotherapy, and the African diaspora.

Following her own and her child's autism diagnoses, Dr. Neff became a passionate advocate for neurodivergent individuals. She challenges stereotypes and misconceptions through her writing, speaking engagements, and online presence, including her Instagram platform where she shares educational content and resources.

Dr. Neff is dedicated to bridging the gap between academic research and practical applications in the mental health field. She promotes an authentic and holistic approach to mental health that embraces the whole person and acknowledges the impact of systemic issues on individual well-being.

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Dr. Neff’s Instagram

Neurodivergent Insights website

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Divergent Conversations podcast

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