• We Don't Need Men Part 2
    Nov 15 2024
    PART 2 DOSE Resilience Under Pressure: Men as Leaders and Protectors Stepping away from purely physical contributions, we see men traditionally taking on the role of protectors and decision-makers under pressure. Think of firefighters rushing into burning buildings, soldiers on the front lines, or first responders during crises. There is a cultural and psychological element to the masculine role in protection and defense that has shaped society's expectations. These roles often require individuals to act under extreme stress, without hesitation, making life-and-death decisions in mere seconds. It is not that women cannot or do not serve in these capacities, but men are still the majority in these lines of work. Men have been trained, socialized, and even hardwired, some would argue, to take on these burdens. It is a role not taken lightly and one that brings with it immense responsibility. For a long time, society has been structured in a way that encouraged men to step up as providers and protectors, and that traditional sense of responsibility is still relevant today. Even though we are working toward a society where both genders can comfortably share these roles, the intrinsic drive men must provide for their families and communities remains a powerful force. Men are critical to the growth and development of families, and their presence provides stability, structure, and support that positively impacts the lives of those around them. Now, in the modern dialogue, there is a narrative that has become more prevalent—that men are somehow expendable or unnecessary. Some segments of modern feminism argue that women “don’t need men” or that men are less essential to societal progress. And while empowerment for women is important, the idea that men are not necessary is both inaccurate and unfair. Men and women bring different strengths, skills, and perspectives, and it is through this balance that we find real progress. Just as women are irreplaceable in countless ways, men are irreplaceable in others. Society benefits most when both men and women are respected, valued, and allowed to contribute in ways that align with their strengths. It is worth considering that society does not benefit from sidelining any group. When men’s contributions are downplayed or dismissed, we lose out on the strength and resilience they bring to the table. The idea that men are somehow not needed runs counter to the truth that both genders are interconnected and interdependent in ways that drive human progress. From fathers who provide guidance and protection to sons who carry on legacies, men’s roles in the family are deeply significant. Their presence fosters a sense of security, teaches discipline, and provides a foundation for growth. We are at our best when we embrace the contributions of both men and women. The reality is that we need each other. It is about honouring the strengths each gender brings without diminishing the other. Men’s contributions to society—from the physical and protective to the innovative and nurturing—play a fundamental role in building and sustaining the world we know today. And as we move forward, acknowledging and celebrating these contributions will only help us build a stronger, more balanced world where everyone’s role is respected and valued. In the end, men are integral to the fabric of society. Their labour, leadership, support, and innovations are essential components of a thriving, balanced world. It is not about whether we can live without men or women; it is about recognizing that we are all interconnected, and together, we have the power to create a world that respects, values, and celebrates each person’s unique contributions. Countering the “We Don’t Need Men” Narrative In today’s age, the phrase “we don’t need men” has taken on a life of its own. In the spirit of independence, some people suggest that men have become expendable, that their roles in society are diminishing. However, taking a step back, one might argue that society thrives not on independence but on interdependence. It is about recognizing that both men and women bring something unique to the table. We are different—not better or worse, but different—and our differences often allow us to complement one another in powerful ways. The biological, psychological, and even cultural distinctions between men and women create a complex tapestry of roles, responsibilities, and contributions. While modern narratives focus on self-sufficiency, there’s strength in acknowledging that we are stronger together. It is not just about survival; it is about flourishing as a society, embracing the roles that each person brings to the community. The masculine energy, in a way, contributes a certain drive, resilience, and tenacity that is invaluable. It is this energy that pushes men to excel in areas that are high-risk, high-stress, and physically demanding. And while we champion the importance of ...
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  • We Don't Need Men
    Nov 15 2024

    Women DONT NEED MEN !

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    14 mins
  • Hurt People Hurt People Part 2
    Nov 13 2024

    Healing Begins with Accountability

    Here’s the thing: healing is an inside job. And the first step for someone who’s hurting is to take responsibility. It’s easy to say, “I’m like this because of my past,” but it’s much harder—and way more empowering—to say, “I’m choosing to break this cycle.” Taking accountability doesn’t mean blaming oneself for the hurt they’ve experienced; it’s about recognizing that they don’t have to carry it forward.

    People who are hurting need to give themselves permission to unpack that backpack of pain. Whether it’s through therapy, self-reflection, or just the honest work of facing their wounds, healing takes courage. It’s not a quick fix, and it’s often messy, but each small step chips away at the walls they’ve built.

    Breaking the Cycle

    When hurt people choose to break the cycle, they not only free themselves but also those around them. They learn to trust again, to communicate without hidden barbs, and to love without conditions. It’s a journey, sure, but one that brings real freedom. Imagine going from a place of constant self-protection to actually connecting with others, to letting their guard down and embracing genuine intimacy.

    For those on the receiving end of someone’s unresolved pain, setting boundaries is key. You can’t heal someone else, but you can choose not to absorb their hurt. It’s okay to say, “I love you, but I won’t allow your hurt to hurt me.” Boundaries give everyone space to breathe, to heal in their own time, and to build relationships on mutual respect rather than shared wounds.

    A Reminder of Empathy

    Ultimately, understanding that hurt people hurt people can make us all a bit more empathetic. This doesn’t mean excusing bad behavior or allowing mistreatment. But it helps to remember that sometimes, when people lash out, they’re dealing with more than what’s on the surface. There’s a lot of hurt behind that reaction, a story that’s often complicated, messy, and unresolved.

    And here’s a little silver lining: knowing that someone else’s pain might be causing their behavior helps us to approach them with compassion. Sometimes, kindness can be the first step in helping them see a different path, one where healing is possible.

    In the End, Healing is Worth It

    In a world where we’re all a bit bruised and battered, choosing to break the cycle is a radical act of love. It’s saying, “I’ve been hurt, but I won’t let that define how I treat others.” When hurt people decide to heal, they reclaim their power. They no longer have to live reactively, spreading the pain they once endured. Instead, they can live with purpose, compassion, and openness.

    So, the next time you encounter someone who’s lashing out, remember that there’s a story there—a story that may be full of hurt, but also one with the potential for healing. And maybe, just maybe, we can all be a little gentler with each other as we navigate our individual journeys, carrying our pasts but not letting them dictate our futures.

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    11 mins
  • Hurt People Hurt People Part 1
    Nov 12 2024

    Hurt People Hurt People: The Ripple Effect of Pain

    Alright, picture this: you’re at a party, having a good time, maybe even chatting with someone who seems cool. But suddenly, someone comes along, says something unnecessarily harsh, or perhaps even starts a bit of drama out of nowhere. You’re left wondering, “Why did they do that? What’s going on?”

    We’ve all had these moments—when someone’s actions sting nd the sting doesn’t quite make sense. That’s where the concept of “hurt people hurt people” comes in. Let’s dive into why people who’ve been through pain sometimes spread it around like confetti (except, not the fun kind). So grab a coffee, get cozy, and maybe wear a little armor, because this ride goes through some real-life rough patches.

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    14 mins
  • Why Marriages are Crumbling?
    Aug 21 2023
    Since past years, we have seen a huge rise of divorces particularly in Asian communities. In Asian communities, divorces are shunned upon & marraiges are a community event. Now the outlook is changing but still the stigma still exists especially for a woman. Even in the west, being divorced is still look down upon. This short podcast, we will discuss what is causing this sudden increase of divorces. Please connect with me on Instagram- Pdeistyping, to add your viewpoint & If you want to feature on my Podcast. Untill next time, remember your mind is beautiful & you are you, say it back !
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    12 mins
  • Letting Go is a Gift
    Aug 19 2023
    Letting go of someone you loved is a Gift you give yourself. When you have given your 101% to a relationship- be it love or a friend you had for a long time like a bestie even since childhood or toxic relatives & sadly in some people cases, even a parent. Everyone of us have a sad story to tell, will you be the Hero or a Forgotten one ? Will you have any regret when you are 60 ? Will you smile to yourself on your death bed ? ARE YOU THE HERO OF YOUR LIFE ? LET GO .... STEP INTO YOUR POWER
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    18 mins
  • Broken Heart Verses- Lying Outfits
    Aug 12 2023
    We all have a real life filter on - We are someone for the whole world to see & at home alone - we are a whole different being. We always hide out insecurities, I know I do too. We have to be filtered version in real world else mental asylums will run amok ! I would love that though 😂 anyways, I hope you enjoy this episode. Connect with me on instagram! Send me a voice note babies.
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    29 mins
  • Broken Heart Verses - The Hermit Hierophant
    Aug 8 2023
    I read out my book & explain the meaning behind the words. Some people say "oh your book is about heartbreak but i never been in love" ... really ? You dint have your heartbroken when a friend ditched you? You dint have a heart broken when a parent said something bad to you? My book deals with all those mental trauma. I had been through a major life changing hurt which I have overcome. I stand on the other side to cheer you on... on your healing journey.
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    20 mins