Episodes

  • 137 - Cultural Icebergs and Meaning-making

    137 - Cultural Icebergs and Meaning-making
    Nov 15 2024
    Some feedback from last episode on purpose and TCKs really brought home to me another challenge faced by many TCKs around purpose - which this episode attempts to do justice to. How do we navigate our own values when we've not been told stories of values, just observable differences?

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    18 mins
  • 136 - TCKs and Purpose-Seeking

    136 - TCKs and Purpose-Seeking
    Nov 8 2024
    I've been avoiding this episode - partly because I'm feeling how incredibly important it is. How does the experience of being a TCK interact with our purpose-seeking? And what do we do about it?

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    23 mins
  • 135 - Look how far you've come...

    135 - Look how far you've come...
    Nov 1 2024
    Taking pause in this episode, a moment to notice, acknowledge and celebrate how far we've come!

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    16 mins
  • 134 - TCKs and Time

    134 - TCKs and Time
    Oct 25 2024
    Time! How does the Third Culture Kid experience impact our sense of time? It's often said TCKs are somewhat allergic to the 10 year plan - but why? And what about the impact on how we do relationships? Join me in this week's ponderings - I'd love to hear your thoughts too!

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    19 mins
  • 133 - Invisible Contracts

    133 - Invisible Contracts
    Oct 18 2024
    How many of us learnt that we could 'make ourselves safe' by offering certain behaviours - compliance, being a good listener, being 'interesting'? In this episode I'm exploring what we may have learnt we could expect back, if we could just find the offering to provide - the contracts we have entered into with our behaviours. "If I'm this, then you will be that" the rule goes. Except when the other party can't see and didn't agree to the contract we have signed up for...

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    27 mins
  • 132 - Attachment Figures... and a poem

    132 - Attachment Figures... and a poem
    Oct 11 2024
    What about the characters in our story that we struggle to find a place for? The people whose languages we've maybe lost but who cared for us as children, worked in our homes or with our parents; these are pivotal points of attachment safety for us. In this episode I explore the limits of attachment theory for TCKs, where it is getting delightfully expanded, and how we can honour attachment figures in our stories.

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    25 mins
  • 131 - The Money Narrative

    131 - The Money Narrative
    Oct 4 2024
    Money! What's it got to do with the Third Culture Experience? Between complex juxtapositions between wealth experiences between countries, modelled standards and shapes of living, expectations around meaningful employment - quite a lot! I wanted to spend some time here on this because it does come up in my work with TCKs, and my own life too, and feels an important element to understand in our stories. As always, I'd love to hear your thoughts!

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    26 mins
  • 130 - Feasible Alternate Realities

    130 - Feasible Alternate Realities
    Sep 27 2024
    In this meandering episode, I'm observing how the practice of imagining feasible alternate realities can benefit us. Sometimes called re-scripting, working with feasible alternative realities is about recognising when we are so busy accommodating (or trying to manage the outcome of) others' decisions, that we shoulder the emotional work to excess. When we imagine feasible alternative realities to difficult situations, we recognise the agency of others' and the ways in which we are not solely responsible for stories that are in fact co-collaborated.

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    23 mins