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  • How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People
  • By: Ramani Durvasula
  • Narrated by: Ramani Durvasula
  • Length: 11 hrs and 31 mins
  • 4.9 out of 5 stars (91 ratings)
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Summary

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REDISCOVER WHO YOU ARE AFTER YEARS OF INVALIDATION.

Dealing with a narcissist is hard. One day their confidence and charisma pull you in, the next day they gaslight, wreck your self-confidence, and leave you wondering what you could have done differently. Clinical Psychologist and narcissism expert Dr Ramani is here to help. Drawing on more than 20 years of studying, teaching and helping people navigate the challenging landscape of narcissism, you’ll learn how to:

  • Spot the tell-tale signs of a narcissist
  • Confront toxic cycles
  • Protect your energy
  • Create realistic boundaries
  • Reclaim and embrace your true self

Packed with expert tips and detailed advice, this book will equip you with the tools to stop blaming yourself, regain your power, heal, and take back your life.

©2024 Ramani Durvasula (P)2024 Penguin Audio

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“A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships, helping them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships.” - Jay Shetty

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Life Changing

This book has changed my life. Struggling to release myself from a malignant narcissist estranged husband this book came at exactly the right time. It has enabled me to finally realise after many many years of abuse that it's not me. It is such a relief to have this book validate what I already knew. More importantly it provides help, advise and strategies on how to cope with a narcissist. This will always remain an important and necessary book in my life as being an empath I'm easily manipulated by narcissists and now have the tools to cope with the narcissistic personalities surrounding me. Thank you Dr. Durvasula xxx

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A must read

I promised myself that this would be my last book on narcissism. Thank you Dr Ramani. I'm ready to close this chapter and live my own life.

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Recommended reading for everyone!

One of the only books tackling narcissism from the victims point of view. Very well written and easy to follow, full of practical and helpful advice.

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Eye opening!

I’ve learnt a great deal from Dr Ramani in the last few years but this book has made me realise, I’m not alone and there’s hope out there.

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Absolutely fantastic insight

This is amazingly well written and read. It's so clear and obviously written by a complete expert in the field. It's quality from a professional. The best insight into the subject, I'm so glad I read it. Makes other people spouting about narcissistic abuse etc look like amateurs!

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A beautifully written fully accessible book about narcissism, its impact, and healing.

I think I’ve summed it up in the title..
Ive just binged listened… will revisit as there were so many relevant thought provoking parts and I am some way already through my healing journey and navigating a new life.
Thank you for writing this book.

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Full of compassion

This is such a compassionate, loving book. It’s validating and motivating and I loved the fact that Dr Ramani was the narrator

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will reread a thousand times!

there was so much in this book I will listen a thousand more times before I take it all in. I loved it. I felt validated. I felt like someone else knew. like I wasn't unheard even tho I never spoke. so much of this book resonated with me. prob the most real thing I've read. tha kyou dr ramani !

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Her determination to get the message across

An essential listen for anyone in an abusive relationship, you’ll learn what to do to regain your true identity

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Genius

A must read. This book is simply genius and dr Ramani never disappoints. Highly recommend.

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