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The Groom Will Keep His Name

And Other Vows I've Made About Race, Resistance, and Romance

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The Groom Will Keep His Name

By: Matt Ortile
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A riotous collection of "witty and captivating" (Bitch Magazine) essays by a gay Filipino immigrant in America learning that everything is about sex - and sex is about power.

When Matt Ortile moved from Manila to Las Vegas, the locals couldn't pronounce his name. Harassed as a kid for his brown skin, accent, and femininity, he believed he could belong in America by marrying a white man and shedding his Filipino identity. This was the first myth he told himself. The Groom Will Keep His Name explores the various tales Ortile spun about what it means to be a Vassar girl, an American boy, and a Filipino immigrant in New York looking to build a home.

As we meet and mate, we tell stories about ourselves, revealing not just who we are, but who we want to be. Ortile recounts the relationships and whateverships that pushed him to confront his notions of sex, power, and the model minority myth. Whether swiping on Grindr, analyzing DMs, or cruising steam rooms, Ortile brings us on his journey toward radical self-love with intelligence, wit, and his heart on his sleeve.

©2020 Matt Ortile (P)2020 Hachette Audio
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"Ortile's writing is like sex - sensual and vulnerable, sometimes irreverent, and often soaked in layers of meaning, with the ability to make you laugh, make you cry, and lay you bare. The Groom Will Keep His Name is a sumptuous must-read for the queer millennial." (Casey McQuiston, author of Red, White & Royal Blue)

"An intellectually ambitious, politically engaged, ideologically sensitive memoir." (Kirkus Reviews)

"Matt Ortile writes with precision and power, and his work overflows with probing insight both inward and outward facing. Ortile's essays deftly navigate the complicated intersection of race, sex, history, family, and self. Propelled by bracing candor and impeccable skill, The Groom Will Keep His Name rushes straight to the reader's eyeballs, demanding to be read." (Josh Gondelman, author of Nice Try)

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The long way to acceptance

I loved listening to this book.
As an immigrant myself, I saw so many common shared history and background yet we are from two different countries, two different continents and we migrated on two different continents. Parts if this books could have been my own experience. The book also allowed me to learn. Learn more about myself. Learn more about homosexuality and its own share of burdens. Learn to be a little more tolerant.

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