In Episode 28, we continue the conversation with Peggy Hurd, a licensed marriage and family therapist, who has been instrumental in my healing journey through separation and divorce. Peggy, with over 51 years of marriage, and the wisdom of being a mom of two and a grandmother of two, returns to further unpack the complex topic of abuse in marriage.

In this episode, we focus on two important and often misunderstood aspects of marital abuse:

- Spiritual Abuse: The misuse of religion, faith, or spiritual authority to manipulate or control a spouse.

- Sexual Abuse within Marriage: Addressing non-consensual sexual experiences and violations within the context of marriage.

Peggy shares her professional insights and offers practical advice on recognizing these behaviors and beginning the process of healing. Through our conversation, we hope to shine a light on the nuanced forms of abuse and empower listeners to rise and reclaim their lives after divorce.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

1. What constitutes spiritual abuse in a marriage and how it manifests.
2. Understanding sexual abuse within marriage and the importance of recognizing boundaries, even in intimate relationships.
3. Signs to look out for if you suspect you or someone you know is experiencing these forms of abuse.
4. Tips on how to start the healing process and reclaim your personal power.

Listen to Part 1 of the conversation (Episode 27) if you missed the introduction to this series. Peggy’s personal and professional insights offer encouragement and clarity for those on the path to emotional freedom.

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We are the fragrance of Christ,

Dana

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RESOURCES MENTIONED:

The Divorced Christian, Pastor Darius Good

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage, Leslie

Episode Summary:

In this special episode, I’m joined by a very important guest—Peggy Hurd, a licensed marriage and family therapist who played a key role in my healing journey during my separation and divorce. With over 51 years of marriage experience, Peggy brings a wealth of knowledge as both a therapist and a wife, mom of two, and grandma of two.

This episode kicks off a powerful series where we break down the different forms of abuse—starting today with emotional and financial abuse. We also dive into the concept of gaslighting, a manipulative tactic often linked to emotional abuse. I get candid about my personal experiences, sharing how I coped with childhood sexual abuse and how I survived through the most challenging times of my life.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

- Definitions and types of emotional and financial abuse

- How gaslighting plays a role in emotional abuse

- Real-life strategies for coping and healing from abuse

- Insights from Peggy’s 51 years of marriage and her professional expertise

- My personal journey through trauma, healing, and survival

Key Takeaways:

- Abuse can take many forms beyond the physical. Recognizing emotional and financial abuse is the first step toward healing.

- Gaslighting can leave victims questioning their reality, making emotional abuse even more damaging.

- Healing is a journey, not a destination. Sharing our stories and learning from others is part of reclaiming our identity and power.

- You are not alone. Support from trusted individuals, including professionals like Peggy, can be life-changing.

Meet Peggy Hurd:

- Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

- Married for 51 years

- Mom of 2, Grandma of 2

If you’ve experienced emotional or financial abuse, know that healing is possible. Start by recognizing the signs and reaching out for support.

Join the conversation! Connect with us on social media and share your story using the hashtag #RiseAndReclaim.

Thank you for listening! Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.

You can email me at: Dana@redeemed-identity.com.

We are the fragrance of Christ,

Dana

Find me on Social Media:

https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/

https://www.instagram.com/redeemidentity

My Free ebook, "Who Am I After Divorce?" can be downloaded here:https://dl.bookfunnel.com/4k769kpebf

Website and Blog link:

https://redeemed-identity.com/blog/

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

The Divorced Christian, Pastor Darius Good

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage, Leslie Vernick

Summary:

In this episode, we confront a common but painful belief: that divorce disqualifies someone from serving God. Many have been told that since God hates divorce, He can no longer use them. But today, we’ll explore the lives of two powerful women—Kathryn Kuhlman and Aimee Semple McPherson—who experienced divorce yet were mightily used by God. Their stories remind us that **God’s anointing and calling are not canceled by human mistakes.

Through their journeys, we’ll learn that God’s grace covers our failures and how His purposes for our lives remain, even when the world says otherwise.

Key Discussion Points:

1. Kathryn Kuhlman’s Journey:

- Raised in Missouri with a passion for spreading the Gospel.

- Founded the Denver Revival Tabernacle but faced public scandal after marrying Burroughs Waltrip, who divorced his wife to marry her.

- After her marriage ended, Kathryn felt heartbroken and judged, but she experienced a deeper understanding of God’s grace.

- Kathryn’s greatest ministry moments emerged **after her divorce, with miracles and healings marking her meetings.

1. Aimee Semple McPherson’s Triumph Through Scandal

- Born in Canada, Aimee was a pioneering evangelist, traveling with her first husband as a missionary.

- Despite **two divorces** and several public scandals, Aimee founded the **Four Square Gospel Church** and built the Angelus Temple in Los Angeles.

- Her story highlights that **God can use people even when their personal lives are messy**. She revolutionized evangelism through radio and drama, impacting thousands.

1. Lessons From Their Lives

- **Romans 11:29** reminds us that "God’s gifts and His call are irrevocable."

- Both women faced **public judgment** but continued ministering with powerful anointing.

- God's anointing is given **for the benefit of others**, not just for the minister.

Key Quotes:

- Kathryn Kuhlman: *“It’s a thousand times easier to die physically than to keep on living. You see, the Lord forgives, but people don’t.”*

- “God’s anointing flows through broken vessels.”

If you’ve gone through a divorce and feel disqualified, this episode is for you. **God’s grace is greater than any failure**, and His calling remains on your life. Offer your brokenness to Him and watch Him transform it into something beautiful.

Thank you for listening!

If this episode blessed you, share it with someone who needs encouragement. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review. You are not disqualified—you are redeemed and called.

You can email me at: Dana@redeemed-identity.com.

We are the fragrance of Christ,

Dana

Find me on Social Media:

https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/

https://www.instagram.com/redeemidentity

My Free ebook, "Who Am I After Divorce?" can be downloaded here:https://dl.bookfunnel.com/4k769kpebf

Website and Blog link:

https://redeemed-identity.com/blog/