In Episode 28, we continue the conversation with Peggy Hurd, a licensed marriage and family therapist, who has been instrumental in my healing journey through separation and divorce. Peggy, with over 51 years of marriage, and the wisdom of being a mom of two and a grandmother of two, returns to further unpack the complex topic of abuse in marriage.

In this episode, we focus on two important and often misunderstood aspects of marital abuse:

- Spiritual Abuse: The misuse of religion, faith, or spiritual authority to manipulate or control a spouse.

- Sexual Abuse within Marriage: Addressing non-consensual sexual experiences and violations within the context of marriage.

Peggy shares her professional insights and offers practical advice on recognizing these behaviors and beginning the process of healing. Through our conversation, we hope to shine a light on the nuanced forms of abuse and empower listeners to rise and reclaim their lives after divorce.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

1. What constitutes spiritual abuse in a marriage and how it manifests.
2. Understanding sexual abuse within marriage and the importance of recognizing boundaries, even in intimate relationships.
3. Signs to look out for if you suspect you or someone you know is experiencing these forms of abuse.
4. Tips on how to start the healing process and reclaim your personal power.

Listen to Part 1 of the conversation (Episode 27) if you missed the introduction to this series. Peggy’s personal and professional insights offer encouragement and clarity for those on the path to emotional freedom.

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We are the fragrance of Christ,

Dana

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RESOURCES MENTIONED:

The Divorced Christian, Pastor Darius Good

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage, Leslie

Episode Summary:

In this special episode, I’m joined by a very important guest—Peggy Hurd, a licensed marriage and family therapist who played a key role in my healing journey during my separation and divorce. With over 51 years of marriage experience, Peggy brings a wealth of knowledge as both a therapist and a wife, mom of two, and grandma of two.

This episode kicks off a powerful series where we break down the different forms of abuse—starting today with emotional and financial abuse. We also dive into the concept of gaslighting, a manipulative tactic often linked to emotional abuse. I get candid about my personal experiences, sharing how I coped with childhood sexual abuse and how I survived through the most challenging times of my life.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

- Definitions and types of emotional and financial abuse

- How gaslighting plays a role in emotional abuse

- Real-life strategies for coping and healing from abuse

- Insights from Peggy’s 51 years of marriage and her professional expertise

- My personal journey through trauma, healing, and survival

Key Takeaways:

- Abuse can take many forms beyond the physical. Recognizing emotional and financial abuse is the first step toward healing.

- Gaslighting can leave victims questioning their reality, making emotional abuse even more damaging.

- Healing is a journey, not a destination. Sharing our stories and learning from others is part of reclaiming our identity and power.

- You are not alone. Support from trusted individuals, including professionals like Peggy, can be life-changing.

Meet Peggy Hurd:

- Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

- Married for 51 years

- Mom of 2, Grandma of 2

If you’ve experienced emotional or financial abuse, know that healing is possible. Start by recognizing the signs and reaching out for support.

Join the conversation! Connect with us on social media and share your story using the hashtag #RiseAndReclaim.

Thank you for listening! Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.

You can email me at: Dana@redeemed-identity.com.

We are the fragrance of Christ,

Dana

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RESOURCES MENTIONED:

The Divorced Christian, Pastor Darius Good

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage, Leslie Vernick

Summary:

In this episode, we confront a common but painful belief: that divorce disqualifies someone from serving God. Many have been told that since God hates divorce, He can no longer use them. But today, we’ll explore the lives of two powerful women—Kathryn Kuhlman and Aimee Semple McPherson—who experienced divorce yet were mightily used by God. Their stories remind us that **God’s anointing and calling are not canceled by human mistakes.

Through their journeys, we’ll learn that God’s grace covers our failures and how His purposes for our lives remain, even when the world says otherwise.

Key Discussion Points:

1. Kathryn Kuhlman’s Journey:

- Raised in Missouri with a passion for spreading the Gospel.

- Founded the Denver Revival Tabernacle but faced public scandal after marrying Burroughs Waltrip, who divorced his wife to marry her.

- After her marriage ended, Kathryn felt heartbroken and judged, but she experienced a deeper understanding of God’s grace.

- Kathryn’s greatest ministry moments emerged **after her divorce, with miracles and healings marking her meetings.

1. Aimee Semple McPherson’s Triumph Through Scandal

- Born in Canada, Aimee was a pioneering evangelist, traveling with her first husband as a missionary.

- Despite **two divorces** and several public scandals, Aimee founded the **Four Square Gospel Church** and built the Angelus Temple in Los Angeles.

- Her story highlights that **God can use people even when their personal lives are messy**. She revolutionized evangelism through radio and drama, impacting thousands.

1. Lessons From Their Lives

- **Romans 11:29** reminds us that "God’s gifts and His call are irrevocable."

- Both women faced **public judgment** but continued ministering with powerful anointing.

- God's anointing is given **for the benefit of others**, not just for the minister.

Key Quotes:

- Kathryn Kuhlman: *“It’s a thousand times easier to die physically than to keep on living. You see, the Lord forgives, but people don’t.”*

- “God’s anointing flows through broken vessels.”

If you’ve gone through a divorce and feel disqualified, this episode is for you. **God’s grace is greater than any failure**, and His calling remains on your life. Offer your brokenness to Him and watch Him transform it into something beautiful.

Thank you for listening!

If this episode blessed you, share it with someone who needs encouragement. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review. You are not disqualified—you are redeemed and called.

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Dana

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Summary:

In today’s episode, we respond to a heartfelt email from a listener named Angela, who is grappling with the pain and betrayal caused by her ex-husband. Angela asks, “When will the Lord bring justice for all the pain my ex-husband caused me?” This question resonates deeply with many who struggle with injustices experienced during divorce, especially when lies and deception leave lingering wounds.

We explore the challenge between desiring justice and trusting God's timing. While betrayal hurts, we discuss how God’s justice may not always align with our timeline or expectations. We reflect on the challenge of surrendering our right to vengeance and trusting that God will expose what needs to be revealed in His perfect way.

Key Takeaways:

1. Justice on God's Timeline: The justice we seek may not happen immediately, but God promises that every hidden thing will be brought to light (Ecclesiastes 12:13-14).
2. Letting Go of Revenge: It’s not our role to expose the sins of others publicly; instead, we must trust God to reveal the truth in His time (Romans 12:19).
3. God's Grace for All: God's mercy extends not only to us but also to those who hurt us, which can be difficult to accept but essential for healing.
4. Confession with Caution: While sharing our pain is important, it should be done with trusted individuals who can hold space for our emotions and encourage us to release the burden at the cross.
5. Words Matter: The power of our words over ourselves and others should align with God's truth, fostering healing rather than bitterness.

Encouragement:

When the desire for justice feels overwhelming, remember that God sees every wound and betrayal. His justice brings not only correction but also redemption and healing. Trusting Him requires surrendering your pain and allowing His perfect will to unfold.

If you’ve struggled with betrayal or the desire for justice, we’d love to hear your story. Send us your questions or thoughts at [your contact info]. Don't forget to share this episode with anyone who might need encouragement today.

SCRIPTURES:

Ecclesiastes 8:11-13, New International Version

Ecclesiastes 12:13-14 New International Version

Isaiah 30:18

Isaiah 61:8

Romans 12:19 New International Version

Mark 4:22

Daniel 2:22

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Episode Overview:

In this episode of the *Rise & Reclaim After Divorce* podcast, we dive deep into the emotional toll of divorce, particularly the sadness and depression that often follow. I share my personal journey of battling emptiness and depression after my divorce and discuss the importance of turning to God during this difficult season. We explore practical ways to cope with these feelings, including grieving, seeking community, and relying on God’s Word to heal and restore our hearts. If you're navigating life after divorce and struggling with sadness or depression, this episode is for you.

Key Points Discussed:

• Personal Story: How I navigated post-divorce depression, emotional exhaustion, and emptiness.
• Post-Divorce Depression: What it is and how it can impact various areas of life including self-esteem, relationships, and daily routines.
• Symptoms of Post-Divorce Sadness and Depression: From persistent sadness, social withdrawal, mood swings, to disrupted sleep patterns.
• 8 Practical Ways to Cope: Including the importance of grieving, seeking community, trying new hobbies, and speaking God’s Word over your life.
• Faith as a Key to Healing: How leaning into prayer, scripture, and worship can restore your soul and help you combat negative thoughts.

SCRIPTURES:

Isaiah 12

Psalm 34:17-18

Jeremiah 29:11

Philippians 4:8

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You Are The Fragrance of Christ,

Dana

Episode Description:

Are you struggling with anger and rage after a divorce? This is part 2 with our special guest Toni Thrash, Host of the Start Your Comeback Podcast. Join us as we delve deeper into how to handle our anger. We also talk about anger turned inward and depression. You are not alone in your journey of healing and rebuilding life after divorce from a Christian perspective.

Guest Bio:

Toni Thrash understands the unique challenges women face when trying to align their faith with their transitions. With a wealth of experience, she has helped hundreds of women create clear and compelling game plans, identify strategic priorities, and build a supportive community to navigate the complexities of life transitions and realize their dreams.

A former volleyball, basketball, and tennis coach, Toni found her calling in life coaching, where she excels in building relationships and fostering trust by accepting individuals for who they are, regardless of their circumstances or success levels.

Living in Frisco, TX, Toni is a dedicated mother to Taylor (and his wife Jordan) and Cameron. She is also a proud grandmother to 14-month-old Barrett. Her podcast, Start Your Comeback, is available on all major podcast platforms.

Toni holds a BS degree in Human Development and Family Studies from Texas Tech University and is a Certified Life Coach Practitioner from the Certified Coaching Federation (CCF) since 2015. She shares her insights and advice on her blog at tonithrash.com.

Toni's Special Offer:

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Toni Thrash

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214-277-9846

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Dana

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Episode Description:

Are you struggling with anger and rage after a divorce? I've been there, and so has our special guest Toni Thrash, Host of the Start Your Comeback Podcast. Join us as we delve into the journey of healing and rebuilding life after divorce from a Christian perspective.

Guest Bio:

Toni Thrash understands the unique challenges women face when trying to align their faith with their transitions. With a wealth of experience, she has helped hundreds of women create clear and compelling game plans, identify strategic priorities, and build a supportive community to navigate the complexities of life transitions and realize their dreams.

A former volleyball, basketball, and tennis coach, Toni found her calling in life coaching, where she excels in building relationships and fostering trust by accepting individuals for who they are, regardless of their circumstances or success levels.

Living in Frisco, TX, Toni is a dedicated mother to Taylor (and his wife Jordan) and Cameron. She is also a proud grandmother to 14-month-old Barrett. Her podcast, Start Your Comeback, is available on all major podcast platforms.

Toni holds a BS degree in Human Development and Family Studies from Texas Tech University and is a Certified Life Coach Practitioner from the Certified Coaching Federation (CCF) since 2015. She shares her insights and advice on her blog at tonithrash.com.

Toni's Special Offer:

Sign up for Toni's newsletter to receive a life-giving PDF called "4 Steps to Overcoming Doubt."

Toni Thrash

t.thrash@fortitudelifecoach.com

214-277-9846

https://www.instagram.com/tonithrash

https://www.ToniThrash.com

You can email me at: Dana@redeemed-identity.com.

We are the fragrance of Christ,

Dana

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Hello everone!

In this episode of *Rise and Reclaim After Divorce*, I continue my discussion with Toni about stepping into freedom from judgement in the church. If you haven't yet, I encourage you to listen to episode 20 which is part 1 of this topic.

Episode Highlights:

- Facing Judgment in the Church as Divorced Christians:

Divorce often carries a stigma, especially in church communities. In this episode, I talk about how I processed through the feelings of disqualification and judgment from the church. We discuss the importance of understanding your identity in Christ and overcoming the negative self-talk that often accompanies judgment.

- Steps to Overcome Judgementalism and Reclaim Your Destiny:

We outline key steps to reclaim your identity and step into your calling:

- Know Who You Are in Christ:

It’s crucial to dispel the negative talk in your own head by reminding yourself of who and WHOSE you are. I share my journey of realizing my true identity in Christ after my divorce.

- Educate Yourself on What the Word Says About Divorce:

The Bible has much to say about divorce, and understanding the truth can bring healing. Recommended resources include, The Divorced Christian by Pastor Darius Good and *Divorce: God's Will?* by Stephen Gola.

- Surround Yourself with Supportive People:

We discuss the importance of having people around you who can help you rediscover your identity, pouring truth into you during challenging times.

- Seek Therapy or Life Coaching:

A therapist or life coach can help you sift through lies and find the truth, which is a key step in healing and growth.

- Walking as a Child of God:

Once you fully know who you are, you can walk confidently as a child of God, no longer defined by past mistakes or societal judgments.

- Pray the Word of God Over Yourself Daily:

Continual prayer and speaking God's promises over yourself are powerful tools to maintain spiritual strength.

- Prophetic Words and Encouragement:

Use prophetic words and scriptures, like 1 Timothy 1:18-19, to encourage yourself as you fight the good fight of faith.

- My Journey to Accepting My Calling:

We talk about how I was initially resistant to the idea of starting a podcast, but God’s calling continued to press on my heart. Through obedience and "learning to build my wings on the way down," I chose to step into my calling. Even now, I'm actively walking in obedience to God, not man.

- Healing Before Ministry:

We also touch on the importance of healing before stepping into ministry. If there are areas of disobedience or unresolved issues from your divorce, it’s crucial to seek repentance and healing before stepping into something big. Ministry should never be entered into without first ensuring that your heart is healed and prepared.

Join me and Toni in this candid conversation as we encourage those who have experienced divorce to rise up and reclaim their God-given destinies!

Blessings,

Dana

Scripture Reference:

1 Timothy 1:18-19 (NKJV)

*Fight the Good Fight*

"This charge I commit to you, son Timothy, according to the prophecies previously made concerning you, that by them you may wage the good warfare, having faith and a good conscience."

Recommended Reading:

- The Divorced Christian by Pastor Darius Good

- Divorce: God's Will? The Truth of Divorce and Remarriage in the Bible for Christians by Stephen Gola