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Sarah Ockwell-Smith's indispensable guide to more peaceful and enjoyable parenting

'This isn't a parenting advice book; it's a book about you. The words you hear in this book, however, will have a far greater impact on your children than those contained in any parenting book you could read (and I count my own in that, too).'

How many times have you asked yourself, 'what's wrong with me? Why can't I stay calm?' So many of us would love to follow a gentler, more positive style of parenting, but we don't think we're cut out for it, because we aren't naturally calm. We feel that there is something wrong with us, that we're not good enough. We believe we are failing our children by not controlling our own emotions adequately.

What we don't realise is that this describes almost every parent there ever was - and ever will be.

In her trademark gentle, supportive and reassuring style, best-selling author Sarah Ockwell-Smith shows that while we all lose it at times, everyone can become a calmer parent. Based on her many years' experience working with parents, Sarah provides research, advice and practical exercises that will set you on the path to calmer parenting that will benefit both you and your child.

Covering everything from the impact of your own upbringing on your parenting style to work and home-life balance and letting go of the quest for perfection to ensuring your own basic needs are met, How to Be a Calm Parent is for any parent who knows that they need to be calmer to raise well-adjusted, happy children, but struggles with their own emotions and stress levels.

©2022 Sarah Ockwell-Smith (P)2022 Hachette Audio UK

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Nothing new + blaming outside factors.

"How to Be a Calm Parent" is a good book full of useful information if you are new to gentle/respectful parenting. But if you have read any books on the subject, there is nothing new.
The author also states that the pressure and expectations on parents, the lack of government support and proper parental leave are massive contributing factors in our inability to stay calm. That is all undoubtedly true. But that's the reality we live in. Sadly, these things will not change in the foreseeable future. So saying "I can't stay calm because there is little support for parents" will not help me stay calmer - it'll only make me more frustrated. I have to focus on what I CAN change and do right now to be the best mum I can be for my son. I want to take responsibility for that and not blame the lack of government support and societal pressure on parents.
A book I found much more helpful in staying calm is "The Miracle of Mindfulness" by Thich Nhat Hanh, which I listened to just before "How to Be a Calm Parent."
Overall, this is not a bad book, but there is nothing new, and the heavy focus on blaming outside factors for not staying calm is very irritating. Eloise Rickman's "Extraordinary Parenting" is still the best, most helpful and practical parenting book I always return to for inspiration and help.

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Just what I needed!

Finally a parenting book that gets to the root of it.
I’ve been waiting in anticipation for about 6 months for this book. Struggling with being anything but calm and in the week before its release, breaking up with my spouse of 13 years.
I’ve been at breaking point and just the introduction of How to be a calm parent made so much sense, brought me to tears and helped beyond words.

I’m not even half way through, but the practical exercises and sage wisdom I’ve read here have been enough for me to make massive changes in my behaviour and have already improved my relationship with not only my toddler, but with myself.
I urge every parent to read or listen to this book. We aren’t perfect but with this help we can learn to be calmer and more forgiving to ourselves.

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it's ok not to be perfect - the main theme of this book which doesn't say anything new

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More than a parenting book

This book explores why you may act the way you do so you can recognise triggers and patterns of behaviour/thought. My favourite part was that the author doesn’t suggest ‘self care’ in the usual, often unobtainable way, but is ever the realist. A great read.

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A very helpful guide to calm parenthood

Practical and uplifting, a really important read for every parent. As always, Sarah Ockwell-Smith manages to connect with each and every one of us and offer us her knowledge in order to help us all in our parenthood journey. Thank you!

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If I apply just 20% of the knowledge here, I think I can be a calm enough parent… :)

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nailed it!

Love the book, very knowledgeable and easy to read. Sarah nailed it as usual! Thank you fir the wisdom

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Thought provoking!

I really enjoyed listening to this as it gave me reassurance, hope and encouragement. A nice little touch was the ‘inspirational quotes’ scattered throughout. A very relatable book for most parents I would think!