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Summary

A memoir by an adult with PDA, reflecting back on his early childhood through to present day.

Diagnosed with pathological demand avoidance (PDA) in his teenage years, Harry Thompson looks back with wit and humour at the ups and downs of family and romantic relationships, school, work and mental health, as well as his teenage struggle with drugs and alcohol.

By embracing neurodiversity and emphasising that autistic people are not flawed human beings, Thompson demonstrates that some merely need to take the 'scenic route' in order to flourish and reach their full potential. The memoir brings to life Harry's past experiences and feelings, from his torrid time at school to the peaceful and meaningful moments when he is alone with a book, writing or creating YouTube videos.

Eloquent and insightful, The PDA Paradox will bring listeners to shock, laughter and tears through its overwhelming honesty. It is a turbulent memoir, but it ends with hope and a positive outlook to the future.

©2019 Harry Thompson (P)2019 Jessica Kingsley Publishers

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Pathological demand avoidance for parents

What a wonderful book. As a parent of a teenage daughter with PDA this book has helped me immensely to understand my daughter, and to ease up and change my parenting style. Harry is very entertaining and helped me see the funny side of what has been a traumatic period in our lives having just begun the autism and PDA journey. Thanks Harry for taking the time to put your life into words.

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Enlightening book!

absolutely loved this glimpse into the life of Harry! this has really helped me to understand my son better! highly recommend!

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Moving, enlightening and insightful book

As a parent of a young PDA boy, this book was simply enormously helpful. Harry explains PDA from the inside out in no uncertain terms, with utter honesty, openness, humour and humility. It was very funny and moving at times. Recommended for anyone wanting to get their head and heart around this not so often visited corner of autism.

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Absolutely Brilliant

A really insightful and honest account of growing up with PDA! Thanks to Harry for giving me a better understanding of my child.

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spot on

I loved the humour. My daughter is 13 and I can so relate to this book. it was also a window into her possible future. Any preconceptions I may have had about autism have been blown out the water by my daughter and this reinforces that. Like Harry's mum my daughter has been my teacher too. Highly recommended this book especially to professionals working with a PDA child or child who hasn't got a diagnosis yet and their families who frequently don't get the appropriate support they deserve and need. Thank you Harry.

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Brilliant!!

I listened to this book in 2 days as I couldn’t put it down. I will probably listen to it again to process and digest it even more.

This book has helped me to understand my Autistic daughter better and although she doesn’t have a PDA diagnosis, I am now even more positive that she is PDA.

Thankyou for sharing your life experiences and for giving me hope that the future can be bright for my daughter and I will trust in her to show me the way 🙏🏾😁

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Essential for anyone affected by or who wants to learn about PDA

I had been avoiding this book I think because I am still coming to terms with the fact I am myself PDA however yesterday his video reminded of a situation in my life not that long ago I went through and as I had a free audible trial I decided to face my fears and brace myself for what I thought I was about to hear.

I am so glad I did - it was not at all what I had imagined and whilst the names and the places were different the situations rang such a bell with everything I’ve endured through my 49 years ago it makes me want to share my journey because whilst I wouldn’t want to change what I’ve been through I am quite surprised I’m still alive and I do think things could’ve been a little easier had I known about my PDA a smidgin earlier than last year.

We are all discovering the woes and the wonders of PDA every day and I have to give a big thanks to Harry because there are plenty more around who don’t share and they haven’t helped the thousands like me who just want to be.

I am looking forward to the next instalment!

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Enlightenment in the Journey to Understand PDA

Amazingly frank and heartwarming. A complete window into " the matrix" of the PDA mind, life and behaviour. The complete idiots guide to understanding the unmanageable....Thanks for sharing your multiverse Harry 😉

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Enlightening, helpful, enjoyable.

I enjoyed listening to this book while walking.
It is helpful, enlightening and a little funny in places.

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An amazing story!

Emotional, sad and at times made me giggle. This was so easy to listen to and gave a great insight into the life that many have had and many are just beginning.
Well done Harry. 👍

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  • 18-12-21

A great resource for PDAers & their loved ones

As a fellow Aspie with PDA, I relate so very well with many of Harry’s prospectives, which had me nodding in agreement and spontaneously laughing as I took in every word.

I listened so intently that I listened to the whole audiobook in two sessions; only stopping the first day (yesterday) when I could no longer ignore my earth suit’s nagging incessancy for basic needs.

Harry, if you read this review, please know how much I truly appreciate your candid words and for not “binning” this book!

I’ve been searching for something that would help me with the things that I’ve been wanting to accomplish, but my PDA has made them seemingly impossible and I found it here in your candid words.

I almost skimmed past your audiobook; not sure if it had what I was looking for, but then I saw that you were the author and I knew from having been a subscriber to your YouTube channel for a couple of years (give or take) that the chances of it being exactly what I was looking for were very good, and I was correct!

I also realized that I haven’t been watching your videos enough lately since I was completely surprised; I had no idea that you had been working on this great book….. Been on an extended rabbit trail for a while now, so yeah, lol…..

You have given me a great resource for overcoming my many “blah” days and for retuning my mindset when it strays into the mental brambles of imposter syndrome and self-distraction; reminding me that I too have something valuable to contribute to the lives of others, instead of sinking into the disillusionment that chains my mind and prevents me from following my passions.

Thank you 😊

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  • josephmp
  • 23-07-22

Offered more than I expected.

I entered this title hoping to gain more understanding of PDA, and left it with a better understanding of myself. Harry Thompson offers an amazing look into the life of a PDA'r growing up and views of life. I highly recommend this book for anyone looking for insight on PDA regardless of what their reason for interest may be.

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  • Sam
  • 01-06-22

Life changing

Harry has given me the gift of forgiving myself for being “bad” my entire life and forcing myself into situations so that I could be “good.” Thank you for sharing your story because it started mine

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 12-05-22

LOVE this book!!!!!

I’m just learning about PDA and this book has helped me so much! I now have such a deeper understanding of what my 12 year old PDA son is going through! Thank you so much, Harry Thompson!!!!

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  • Carrie Hahn
  • 03-01-22

Charming, Entertaining and Informative

Harry shares his experiences and related insight with such eloquence and grace that I both learned and felt much while listening. As a parent of complex children, I specifically enjoyed his insight regarding how the influence of his parents played a part in his journey. Really lovely memoir.

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  • Knute the Great
  • 04-07-21

might help you relate to an autistic you know

well-written, vulgar, insightful into a not-well-understood condition -- Thompson unravels some paradoxes and leaves other ones mischievously alone