would recommend to any parent

I struggle to embed all of the aspects of RIE and this book really helps me to find guidance

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Best for new parents

Loved it! Enjoy the good advice given by a very calm and pleasant voice. I already started to change thr way I talk and approach my son. I can see results.

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Wonderful and helpful advice

I'm so glad I came across this book. Hard to disagree with anything Magda says as everything is based on respect and kindness. It's simple but not always easy, we are only human after all, so the practical advice and lots of examples are super helpful, especially for a first time parent like me! We've started applying this approach and I definitely feel more confident, less guilty, and my little girl seems content and happy.

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Reasonable, practical and scientifically backed

The author provides reasons for why certain parenting behaviour should be carried out or not.
Many examples are provided and paediatric research is often referred to.
Highly recommended. Particularly to those parents who think they already know it all.
You'll be surprised at how dated your parenring beliefs and behaviours are.

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Very complete book

I’ve read many many books about parenting, this one so far been the best! Explains in detail every little area parents struggle with and has a very gentle approach to how to change it
100% recommended

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Don’t bother the read!

Unless you’ve become deprived of any reasoning after being lobotomised this book is just not worth the reading. The author even states it’s “philosophy” approach. It’s clearly based on its own personal opinion and not as much on facts and scientific findings. Some points even it even contradicts scientific common knowledge without providing an argument to conflict against and explain the author’s position, for example talking in a high pitch voice to your baby. Several books, just to mention a couple like Brain Rules for Babies by John Medina and 12 Rules to Life by Jordan Petersen, refer to the same research in how it is a natural behaviour of parents and the benefits of it for the baby. The present author just states “don’t do it, it’s not natural to you to talk like that” and no extra explanation.
I honestly wish I had my money back and the time I’ve spent listening to it. The book is just too basic and superficial, on top of it contradicts common knowledge of scientific community! By the end of it you won’t even stand the voice of the reader too.

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Not keen on crying aspect

A lot of this book makes sense, however the crying aspect doesn’t. She speaks about allowing your baby to cry... to let them ‘self soothe’... to just complain and she says adults feel better after a good cry and so does a baby. She speaks about distracting babies from crying...
She talks about putting babies in their own beds and allowing them to cry whilst using your voice to soothe them.
Umm... No.
Maybe when older but not before 6 months! The author does not specify the age of the baby being encouraged to sleep alone. Or the baby being allowed to cry.
So I’m unsure as to what she means. If she means for a young baby to be put to bed in her own bed and to be allowed to cry then I strongly disagree.

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Contradictory, repetitive and encourages letting the baby cry.

I'm only a few chapters in but I don't agree with this book. Regarding crying it is contradictory - tells you not to allow it, and then to allow it. Personally I think it's unfair and damaging to let your baby cry. I gave up at the point where it tells you never to take the baby into the bathroom with you if they are distressed and that there is a RULE at their nursery that this is not allowed. Not for me... I did however like the part about talking through things with baby and empathising with them.

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wouldent recommend

struggled to finish found abit boring. narrators voice wasn't the best didn't find very useful apart from some points that were quite obvious anyway

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Repetitive and leans to much in one direction

This book seems to push forward two messages much more firmly than anything else in this book and repeats it what seems several times in each chapter. It begins with such nonsensical advise that you must be given direct permission from your newborn child in order to change their nappy. If the newborn baby does not seem to enjoy you doing your job as a caregiver removing the faeces and urine which if not removed swiftly will cause rashes and sores, then you should wait a few moments and start again. If the baby persists, sit them down and explain the 3 month old you this is so important.

The next thing they constantly insist is that interaction with your baby is toxic and can cause much more harm than good. Every moment of interaction with your child is robbing them of a learning experience and preventing them from learning or becoming independent. This is contradictory to all research that suggests that babies thrive off interaction and there is direct correlation between the amount of words spoken to your baby and there development.
Speak with them and interact with them, and let them lead the activity.

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