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Summary

For every woman that has ever felt trapped; a funny, raw, and empowering mid-life-crisis.

Creator, mother, lover, and social media phenomenon Tova Leigh explores what the hell you are supposed to do when you find yourself living a life you don't remember signing up for.

I was bored, angry, tired, and sad. I felt all alone yet I had nothing to complain about. I had a good job, a husband who wasn't shagging his assistant, three children who apart from being the occasional a**holes were pretty good kids; a house, a dog, and everything else we are told as little girls we should aspire to. But inside, I was growing restless. I didn't want to be looked at as just a "mom". I wanted to be desired, to make someone's hair stand on end and go crazy for me. I didn't want to live by some label that didn't represent me. I looked at my messy minivan one morning and I wanted to vomit on it all. I panicked, thinking about how I am slowly approaching middle age and menopause, and I wondered how many years do I have left of being "f--ckable" before everything starts going downhill?

In her first book, Tova takes the listener on her journey of rediscovering who she is after motherhood and beyond the norms society forces upon women, whilst encouraging them to break free and just be themselves.

When you find authenticity it's hard to go back. It's like opening a door to the truth and starting to breathe a new type of air. This discovery is what prompted me to write. It's my way of saying HERE I AM.

©2020 Tova Leigh (P)2020 Watkins Publishing

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A resounding YES!

Just what I needed to hear! A breath of fresh air! Tova has spoken to my heart and in a way given me the permission (not that she would say I needed it) to be who I truly am, no labels, just me. Thank you.

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brilliant

loved it! made me laugh but also made me feel so normal.

thank you Tova can't wait for your next book.

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Amazing find!

So good we heard it all in a road trip from Scotland to London!

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relatable and empowering

I feel I had a voice when I listened to this book, so many times I gave had the same thoughts and revelations. this is a very relatable book for anyone who is in a long term relationship or married with kids, its open and offers an empowering view on life.

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Tova great sense of humour on life

Tova's reading of her book made it so easy to listen too.
Giving her point of view on life. Funny, true full and eye opening.
Wonderful way on how to see life.
I did have a problem with my down load of the book.

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Amazing. Must read ❤️

Brilliant book, perfectly read by Tova and I have already recommended to friends and family!

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Thank you!

Enjoyed every minute of this book, made me laugh and cry,cringe and think about life in such a different way. Cannot wait to listen again!

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F_ _ked @ 40

Really enjoyed listening to Tova narrating her book, so witty, matter of fact, balshy, brutally honest and liberating. Roll on your 2nd release.

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If you read or listen to it, try not to judge

If you like to read a broad spectrum of opinion on life, philosophy and psychology, you will enjoy this book. If you focus on the story, appreciating that people and their relationships are diverse, then there are take-aways and insights for most. This is an often funny, sometimes sad but relatable story about a woman and her family with all the challenges, victories, happy and tragic times she and they have encountered on their journey, laid bare. Tova appears sincere and honest in her narrative and presents her life dilemmas in simple terms. I enjoyed the read.

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Some stuff you just need to hear!

This is a great listen. I love Tova's work, I think everyone can take something away from this book, over 40 or not.

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  • 09-10-20

awesome

She puts into words what many women feel but don't know how to say. I loved it!

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  • 27-08-20

Captivating

Honest loved every word. Thank you for putting into words how is moms really feel. You are amazing.

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  • Aimee Murray
  • 21-08-20

SO relatable 😉

She wrote everything I was trying to figure out how to voice after my divorce!

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  • Kerri
  • 15-06-20

And I’m not even 40

After becoming a teen mom at 17, completely feeling like an adult, yet in the body of a child, honestly.... I’ve never related to anything more in my entire life. From her relationships, to her marriage, to her mom guilt and love for sex toys.. even at 27 I enjoy this book more and more. I find myself listening to it when I’m in between books. So far I’ve gotten 4 listens out of it. And with it being in Tovas voice makes is so much better 🤣

10/10 even tho I can only give 5 stars.
You’re such a real incredible human and you make me feel normal, I fucking love it.

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  • Vickie
  • 13-04-22

Love everything about this book.

This book is so true. She says everything that moms feel and are too ashamed to talk about. I wish she were my best friend. I would call for for advice. Thank you Tova. You are amazing. Going through a divorce and feel it all.

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  • Amy Wasker
  • 05-02-22

Great listen !

I needed this! Approaching 40 with 2 young children! Thank you for making me feel normal and knowing my mental angst is not unheard of!! Women and moms everywhere should be talking about having your own life and space! Thank you for speaking out and being a supportive figure in this arena!!

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  • gina m.
  • 18-01-22

loved it, l

I really enjoyed hearing her voice, and the narration was he, and she did it so well like you were hanging out together. she's a total werido and loves it.

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  • Samantha Bloom
  • 01-12-21

Couldn't finish it!

She had some good points but there really wasn't an overall story. I felt I was just listening to a stranger tell me about her life. It was boring.

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  • 30-09-21

So inspiring!

Rating from my husband's amazon account... I have followed Tova Leigh for a long time online. She is so funny and relatable online! This book was no different! We get so stuck in the routine of wife, mom, employee, etc. that we forget who we actually are. We are more than the roles we play. This book has helped me reconnect with myself, and I am so thankful for it.

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  • 12-06-21

Great Listen

Loved it. Great story telling, very entertaining. She did a great job reading it so as to keep you wanting to listen on.